Faithfulness is defined as adhering firmly and devotedly, as to a person, cause or idea; loyal.
Worthy of trust or belief; reliable. Undeviating attachment. (Source: www.freedictionary.com)
It is also one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit.
When two people get married, they vow to be loyal/faithful to each other in all entirety; body, mind and soul. However, being the fickle beings we are, we love shifting goalposts to justify our shortcomings.
I recently finished reading Marla Taviano’s “From Blushing Bride to Wedded Wife”.
It is a good and easy book to read full of practical advice for a new bride written in a humorous style that does not come across as self-righteous. In one of the chapters entitled ‘Faithfulness In Action’, she tackles the above topic in its entirety, From lust, guarding one’s eyes and heart, tempting thoughts and even dressing.
She talks about dangers of comparing your husband to other men, thoughts such as “I wish my husband was more patient, considerate, spiritual, poetic, loving … like so and so”. It is dangerous to fantasize about desirable qualities in other men that your husband lacks as it can lead to an emotional affair very fast e.g. if your man in not easy to talk to, you find yourself opening up to another man maybe a friend, a colleague, and as it gets more intense, you justify your feelings by arguing that your man is too busy, so its alright as long as it does not go too far…well, how far is too far? I think it is better to play it safe and not even consider such.
Read Proverbs 5:15-17