I cut my hair earlier this year. Really short, shorter than it has ever been.
It was not a big chop kind of thing as I have always been natural.
It was not a sign of emotional distress.
It was not an instantaneous decision. It took time, months even, of me asking friends how I would look with short hair. Checking out different looks, looking for a good hairstylist. When I finally decided to go ahead, I chopped off a bit at home and had the big chop done by a hairdresser.
I love the short hair look,
and I am actually headed to the barbers in a few. Hahahahaha. But recent reactions have made me wonder about the perceptions we have of women who cut their hair short :-
- That a woman cuts her hair as she is in emotional distress, or wants to cut off some things in her life.
- That she is unhappy with her sex life and wants to reclaim it. *Insert blank stare*
- Cutting off societal expectations of her. A way to express her identity, increase self awareness. (Hmm I am more self aware so….)
- Cutting of damaged ends. The “Big chop” , getting rid of relaxed hair and wanting to nurture her hair in its natural state.
- Because it is a trend. (Hey, Halle Berry made short hair look sexy)
- A cry for help; that a woman wants to be really SEEN.
The list is endless and I have been asked intrusive questions on the same. Am I sick? Is my marriage ok? Am I not sending a bad signal to my daughter that a masculine look is better? Am I Depressed? Am I not being selfish as I had really nice hair that grew long so fast while others struggle to grow their hair? Am I broke?
Thing is, women cut off their hair for various reasons. There is no one size fits all.
Why did I cut my hair?
Personal Transformation!Because I wanted to.
Do I intend to keep this look? I do not know. I love it. So far, so good.
I have realized though that I spend more time in the mirror looking at myself. Really looking. Seeing my beauty for the first time. I am surprised at how much I had let my hair define me, even if I was not conscious of it at the time.
I know it does not make sense, but I really do SEE myself now.