Cut off

I cut my hair earlier this year. Really short, shorter than it has ever been.

It was not a big chop kind of thing as I have always been natural.

It was not a sign of emotional distress.

It was not an instantaneous decision. It took time, months even, of me asking friends how I would look with short hair. Checking out different looks, looking for a good hairstylist. When I finally decided to go ahead, I chopped off a bit at home and had the big chop done by a hairdresser.

I love the short hair look, and I am actually headed to the barbers in a few. Hahahahaha. But recent reactions have made me wonder about the perceptions we have of  women who cut their hair short :-

  1. That a woman cuts her hair as she is in emotional distress, or wants to cut off some things in her life.
  2. That she is unhappy with her sex life and wants to reclaim it. *Insert blank stare*
  3. Cutting off societal expectations of her. A way to express her identity, increase self awareness. (Hmm I am more self aware so….)
  4. Cutting of damaged ends. The “Big chop” , getting rid of relaxed hair and wanting to nurture her hair in its natural state.
  5. Because it is a trend. (Hey, Halle Berry made short hair look sexy)
  6. A cry for help; that a woman wants to be really SEEN.

The list is endless and I have been asked intrusive questions on the same. Am I sick? Is my marriage ok? Am I not sending a bad signal to my daughter that a masculine look is better? Am I Depressed? Am I not being selfish as I had really nice hair that grew long so fast while others struggle to grow their hair? Am I broke?

Thing is, women cut off their hair for various reasons. There is no one size fits all.

Sigh.

Why did I cut my hair? Personal Transformation!Because I wanted to.

Do I intend to keep this look? I do not know. I love it. So far, so good.

I have realized though that I spend more time in the mirror looking at myself. Really looking. Seeing my beauty for the first time. I am surprised at how much I had let my hair define me, even if I was not conscious of it at the time.

I know it does not make sense, but I really do SEE myself now.

Motherhood appraisal….LizWala style

Organisation: Wala abode Title: Mothering four children Year or period covered: December 2007 to December 2016 Time in present position: 9 years Appraisee: Amakove Appraiser: Management State your understanding of your main duties and responsibilities To mother four children. I had initially applied for 2 children. One boy and one girl. The orders got mixed […]

via Performance Appraisal: Year 9 — lizwala

Project Manenos Part 2

Our kitchen is done. Yippee!!!!! OK 90% done as a couple of appliances are yet to be fitted but we love it. We decided to go with Streamline Designs. They were not the cheapest, but they were the most professional and great handiwork to match. They got the measurements right, the design right and the colours matched the tiles we had selected.

We had crazy quotes, even paid for site visits. But Streamline did not charge us for the visit. Their crew was on site on time, cleaned up after themselves and worked well with no supervision. Any delays were communicated, solutions provided and oh the quote broke down everything. No hidden charges, agreement had timelines attached that were met. (I love that btw). I cannot wait for the final reveal.

Now the rest of the space is staring back at us. We had not engaged an interior designer at any stage. We however realized we needed professional help with the rest of the finishing; someone who would be able to translate what we wanted the space to be. And so the search began.

To be honest we had no idea where to start. We went to the Ideal Interiors Expo at Two Rivers Mall, (which was a big disappointment) and managed to get a few contacts.

So, first visit by an interior designer was this past Saturday. A reputable and posh outfit but hey, our dreams are valid and they were not charging for a site visit. LOL

Anyway, the creative director and one of their designers came and saw the space, gave a few ideas, took measurements etc. Now, when we had visited their showroom, one of the sales ladies had told us that the cost of a render/ design began at Kes 40,000 minimum. Yes. I can see the look on your face. Buuut, if we selected some pieces from them, they would deduct the cost and work backwards. If not, the 40k would be for the design only. Which sounded great to us, and that why we set up the site visit and also as we were really interested in some of their stuff. Wallpapers, lamps etc.

Come Monday. We received an email from them to deposit over Kes 50,000 in their account to enable them design for us. I know……. Sigh.

BUT, here came the shocker. We were apparently misled by their sales staff. Or as they put it “miscommunication”. The fee was just that a fee. It could and would not be deducted from the cost of the materials we sourced from them.  Double Sigh.

Anyway, I got confused and decided to engage an interior decorator via email and posed a few questions so I could understand how these things work.

 

To be continued…..

 

 

 

Weekend recap- Pre – birthday Lunch

Hello Lovelies.

The weather in Nairobi is awesome right now. Who doesn’t love the smell and sound of rain after the sweltering heat since January? Beautiful weather for a beautiful country.

This past weekend was a busy one for me. H and I are yet to finish our building project and Saturday was spent picking some natural stone tiling from Classic Mouldings. They have a beautiful range of stones and decorative paints that you will fall in love with. They are located on Mombasa road and have a new gallery off Waiyaki Way. This is what we picked:-

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Caribbean tumbled antique blend

Saturday afternoon was spent at the barber (for me) and the salon (for Njeri). I finally cut my hair and love the new me. Had late lunch at On the Grind on Riara road with my best friend. The food was surprisingly good; yummy and fresh. I have always ignored it, but shall definitely return.

Sunday was my day with the Tots and we had lunch at Adega. I love Adega; their food is delicious and halal, not greasy, service is fast, portions are huge and they have a great kiddie area which you don’t have to pay extra for; like some places in Nairobi. Sigh.

They do not serve alcohol but have an array of fresh juices, shakes, mocktails and hot beverages. It was mango juice for the kids and the usual pineapple mint for me. Yummy.

It is the best pick where one can let the kids play as you linger over your lunch. I just made sure to reserve a table near the play area so I could watch them play without having to move a lot. Perfect solution for when you are alone with two very energetic preschoolers.

I had the kingfish with fried rice and the kids had fries with chicken nuggets. Check out Leo’s fork skills 🙂

I was too stuffed to have dessert and even the kids barely touched their food, so they had it for dinner instead. LOL. Nothing goes to waste if I can help it.

Today is my birthday. Woop! Woop! Why am I so excited about growing older?

Have a lovely week ahead friends.

Culinary Delights- Potatoes and Steak

I love potatoes. Boiled, fried, baked, hot, warm, cold.  I love them. There is a funny joke that ladies from my tribe put potatoes in everything. Hahahahaha. Well I do not. But I can have them for breakfast, lunch and supper! And this love includes sweet potatoes 🙂

Below is a throwback meal I made.

I boiled the potatoes in salt, a bit of turmeric and garlic powder. Garnish with coriander.

The steaks were rubbed with olive oil, salt and lots of black pepper, and put on a hot griddle (same one I use for making chapatis). About 2 minutes on each side as they were not very thick and finished off with a knob of butter.

I love kachumbari in various forms. Here it was just tomatoes, onions, salt, a bit of cumin, roughly chopped spinach dressed in olive oil and lemon juice. Yes spinach. Just clean it well and only eat raw if sure of the source.

I am really bad with quantities. LOL

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Changes

One thing I love about human beings is the ability to change. There are those who love change and are restless in situations that need things to the same. And there are those who loath change. They love things as they are; woe unto you if you ruffle things up.

We make decisions that require us to change or those around us to change. Some people thrive after a change, others shrivel and withdraw. Change affects us in so many ways, both big and small.

As I had posted earlier, I changed jobs recently and I am loving it so far. Love the freedom  I have and more time to be spent with family and friends. In my previous job, even taking leave was a headache. you did qualify for leave but it had to be within certain times of the month and only if there was someone to hold fort for you and an endless myriad of things to be done before you leave until it made me wonder at times if going on leave was even worth it! Sigh.

Having more time that I didn’t before was unsettling at first. My mind was blank the first Saturday on what to do. Oh there was a lot to be done but it was weird planning a day without feeling rushed. Now that the change has sunk in, I am taking steps to tick my very long and pending “to do” list. I have a couple of DIY projects I will be working on, travel more, get back to a bit of gardening (yes, a bit) and taking better care of myself (read working out LOL ). Still debating on whether I should give the strawberries another chance. Hmmmm.

 

Left overs

Who does not love left overs? I am at my desk having left over potato salad for lunch. LOL

It is January when so many are complaining of being broke, carrying lunch from home is a sensible idea for now. Just make an extra serving at dinner and voila, you are sorted for the following day’s lunch, or breakfast.

I love having leftovers for breakfast. They are pretty filling for someone who is based in the field, and much healthier than the greasy snacks that are so tempting in the office. The samosas, the mandazis, mahamris and chapatis. So tempting and so wrong when you are struggling to get on the “no wheat diet” bandwagon in the hopes of getting a flat tummy as fast as possible. 🙂

I have never understood why some folks do not like leftovers, why would you want to throw away food? Why? I am from a generation where refusing to finish your food was a crime. A. Big. Crime. You would be shown pictures of starving kids and be reminded constantly of how privileged you were to have a meal in front of you. Never mind that we had pigs that could do with the extra scraps, No. You cleared your plate. No wastage ever.

Njaanuary is truly a humbling month. You live within your means, you waste nothing, and do not splurge on anything. You scrimp on everything; only eat when necessary, do not eat out, do not entertain at home etc.

Sigh. Too bad it is going to change in a few days when folks get paid and begin to splurge.